Last Sunday in the paper I was looking at the obituaries I saw the name and a picture of someone I knew with his personal history recreated.
I worked for this man 39 years ago for just a matter of months. I don’t even include that brief time on my resume.
I remember when I got the job I was over the moon. It seemed too good to be true and it was. The reason was the man; the owner of a multi industry empire was a horn dog. He came on to me with sexual advances as soon as I started work. It was very surprising to me because during the hiring process he was very professional.
Our twice a week meetings were not just full of sexual innuendos but blatant sexual advances that today would have landed him in jail! After about a thousand times telling him nothing was going to ever happen I quit.
He owned a few restaurants here and in several other cities. After I quit I never went to any of his restaurants again. If friends wanted to meet at one of his places I just declined. One of the restaurants has meeting rooms where he would have his various liaisons.
This man died of cancer I discovered from reading his obituary. At first I thought one of his grown children wrote his obituary but then I realized he must of wrote it himself.
He mentioned his wife as the love of his life. He mentioned his wife was his best friend. He mentioned his early adventurers when he was dating his wife and when they were first married, and first starting his businesses.
Many people when they are terminal will write their own obituary. It is a way to say good-bye or to tell their own story or to recreate one.
I know I wasn’t the only woman he hired for alternative reasons. After 40 years of marriage I would think his wife knew the kind of man she married. Maybe she did. Maybe she didn’t care. Maybe he changed his ways. Maybe?
His obituary was a way to say to the world how much he loved his wife. He got the last word on the subject so women like myself, if we were to come forward, what could we say?
Have you come across some recreated histories in obituaries?