I am the kind of person with a pretty long lead before I snap. Or at least I think I am! I sincerely try to be nice to people. If my nice attempts are rebuffed or rejected, I eliminate those people from my life. Sometimes I do snap and I get my bitch on!
Here are 5 recent examples when I let my inner bitch out and I turn into a controlled, calculated Bitch:
“I don’t recall that email”
You mean the one I sent 4 times. The one I gave a deadline to respond that you missed and now you are getting back to me?
“I forgot we had an appointment today. I am so busy. Can we reschedule?”
If this is the first time, life happens, I understand. The subtext however is my time isn’t important to you.
If this happens more than once that is it. All business is conducted if at all via emails not phone calls and I will or will not return the requests at my leisure.
Can I borrow?”
These requests, anything from borrowing a book to a car is usually from family, long term friends, neighbors or coworkers. Sometimes the answer is yes if when returned there is a “Thank-You”! When my punch bowl and lawn chairs are returned broken, the garden tools not at all, the answer for the new request is “NO”! No explanation needed.
I get requests frequently to write a reference. I can maneuver this one easily if I know the person well. If I don’t, I say I don’t know their work habits/financial habits well enough to write a reference. What gets my inner bitch flying free is a reference written by the person asking me to “just sign it”! WTF
“Do you remember when?”
Recreating history is a certain way to let my inner bitch fly. If I don’t remember I will say so. I won’t go along when I don’t have a clue! If indeed I do remember, recreating history doesn’t fly with me. In a time when ‘alternative facts’ are acceptable, they aren’t acceptable to me. Ever.
What triggers you to let your inner bitch out?